On this page, you'll find advice from our team of psychologists to help you through all the ups and downs of life.
Question
So many people are leaving Hong Kong, but I am here to stay. When my friends tell me they are leaving, it makes me feel lonely and sad. What should I do?
Answer
It's tough when people leave. Sadly, it is something everyone faces at some point – you're just experiencing it a little easier. Here are a few things you can try:
- Accept your feelings: It's normal to feel sad when a loved one moves away. But take time to feel your emotions. That's part of growing up, and you don't have to hide your tears or pretend to be happy.
- Make the most of the time you have left: Moving to another country might be stressful for your friends. Try to support them. You can help them pack and discuss how you'll keep in touch. You could also throw them a goodbye party or give them something to remind them of home.
- Keep in touch: Social media can help you communicate with your friends even after they move. You could even send them real letters.
Just because your friends are leaving, it doesn't mean your relationship are over. They have just changed into a new form. You might be worried about feeling lonely, but you likely have other classmates whose friends have also left. Make a new connection by talking to them.
Talk it out
Have you ever had to say goodbye to someone you loved? Maybe it was your kindergarten friend who went to a different primary school. Or perhaps, you also know people who have left Hong Kong.
How can you be a good friend to someone when you are saying goodbye?
