Difficulty: Explorer (Level 1)
It is completely normal to feel overlooked when it seems like your siblings receive more attention. Here is some advice on what you can do.
Give yourself time
When you feel this way, it may mean you want your parents’ love and attention. Take the time to explore the reasons behind these feelings. This can help you understand yourself better. It can also make it easier to talk about what you are thinking.
Express your feelings
It is very important to talk to your parents about what you need. You could write them a letter or email, send a text message or record a voice message. These ways let you take your time to choose the best words. They also give your parents time to read or listen and think about what you are saying.
While communicating, try to keep a respectful tone and avoid placing blame on your parents or siblings. Make sure to be open to what they say.
Think about clear ways your parents can help you feel important and cared for. It could be as simple as going grocery shopping together or taking a short walk to chat.
Seek help from others
If this situation still troubles you even after you talk to your parents, talk to someone you trust. You can speak to a teacher, social worker, counsellor or psychologist. They could help you find more support.
This question was answered by clinical psychologists from Shall We Talk, a mental health initiative under the Department of Health launched with the Advisory Committee on Mental Health.
