Difficulty: Explorer (Level 1)
It must be confusing and hurtful to feel that your friends hate you. There could be many reasons that you think this way. First of all, you can figure out what’s going on. You can write down how you feel and the reasons for believing your friends hate you.
If it is because your friends are bullying you, you should talk to an adult. Reach out to your parents and teachers right away.
If you are unsure why you feel this way, your mind may be imagining the worst. Your friends may not hate you, but there could be a misunderstanding. Talk to your friends about what happened and how you feel. This can help in clearing up the situation.
You can also think about how you and someone became friends and why you stay friends. Remembering the positive parts of your friendships can help you stop worrying.
Also, sometimes friends argue because they have different ideas or likes. You can be honest about how you feel and what you want. It helps to build a stronger relationship.
If this thought continues to bother you, talk to someone you trust, like your parents and teachers. They can help you understand what’s happening and give you good advice.
This question was answered by San Hung, a registered counselling psychologist (HKPS) and secondary school counsellor.
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