Difficulty: Explorer (Level 1)
You might be feeling lonely, confused and jealous. You might even wonder if you did something wrong.
But keep in mind that many things can influence relationships. For example, parents may chat more with a child who is very expressive. They might think that their other children want more personal space. But their love for each child can still be equal.
Also, some parents give an older sibling more responsibility for the chores. It might seem like they trust your older sibling more. But this could just be because of the age difference.
Everyone is different. Your relationship with your parents will not be the same as their relationship with your sister. Try not to focus on comparing who has a better relationship. Instead, think of how each relationship is special. Look at their relationship with your sister and pick the parts you like. Think about what you appreciate about your relationship with your parents.
Then, make a list of things that you would like to change about how you and your parents spend time together.
Try to find a quiet time to talk to your parents. It might feel difficult at first, but tell them how you are feeling. Share what you want to do better and how you hope they can help.
Sometimes, parents do not realise that their actions hurt or affect you. Talking about it helps them understand you better. That is how you can build a stronger bond.
This question was answered by San Hung, a registered counselling psychologist (HKPS) and secondary school counsellor.
