Difficulty: Explorer (Level 1)
One grade or moment in school does not define your worth or your abilities. It might help to take these small steps to address how you’re feeling.
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Talk to your teacher: Perhaps your teacher doesn’t realise how their actions affect you. Try to have a polite and honest talk. You can say: “I feel left out because I am not chosen to speak often.” This helps you both understand each other. Teachers appreciate when students show they care about their learning.
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Reflect on your efforts: Take a moment to acknowledge all the hard work you’ve put in. Write down a few things you’re proud of to remind yourself of your strengths.
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Be kind to yourself: Pressure to meet expectations can be exhausting. Give yourself permission to rest and do something you enjoy, even for a little while. It’s OK to take breaks and not be perfect.
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Reach out for support: Talk to a trusted friend, family member or school counsellor about what’s going on. Sometimes, sharing your feelings with someone who cares can make these emotions feel lighter.
You’re not alone in feeling this way, and it’s normal to struggle sometimes. If these feelings don’t go away or become too much to handle, a counsellor or therapist can help you find ways to feel better. You’re doing your best, and that’s something to be proud of.
This question was answered by Ken Fung, a clinical psychologist, director of therapy and counselling at the Jadis Blurton Family Development Centre and founder of Your Relationship Clinic.
