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It is completely normal to feel worried, sad or even angry about moving away. Leaving behind your friends, school and everything you know can be tough. That is why you should speak to your parents.
Choose the right time and place
Pick a moment when everyone is calm and things are not rushed. This could be a family dinner or a quiet evening at home. Avoid talking about this during an argument or when your parents seem stressed.
Be honest and remain calm
You could begin by saying something like, “I accidentally overheard you talking about possibly moving to another country. I wanted to talk to you about it because I’m feeling worried.” This shows you are being honest without suggesting they have been keeping secrets.
Use ‘I feel’ statements
Try to focus on how you feel and not on blaming them. For example, you could say, “I feel scared about leaving my friends and school behind.”
Listen to what they have to say
Share your thoughts. Then, give your parents a chance to explain. Ask questions like, “What made you think about moving?” or “How soon might this move happen?” Remember, your parents could have been waiting for the right time to tell you. Talking about it now can help everyone feel more prepared and can help you feel better.
This question was answered by Ken Fung, a clinical psychologist, director of therapy and counselling at the Jadis Blurton Family Development Centre and founder of Your Relationship Clinic
