Difficulty: Explorer (Level 1)
It is natural to compare ourselves to others, especially when a friend seems to have an easier life. But constantly comparing yourself to your friend can make you feel unhappy and resentful.
Instead, try to look at your own life and what you have.
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Focus on what you value. Think about what is truly important to you. It might be your relationships, your skills, your creativity or your kindness. These things are just as valuable as money.
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Acknowledge your own successes. Even small achievements are important. Did you learn something new? Did you help someone? Be proud of the things you accomplish.
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Do things that make you happy. Spend time on hobbies or with people who make you feel good about yourself. This will help you feel more secure and confident.
If this friendship matters to you, try to focus on what brought you together in the first place. Look for what you have in common. Remember the similarities you share, not just the differences. What do you both enjoy doing? What makes you laugh together?
The most important thing is to be happy for yourself and to build a life that you are proud of, regardless of what others have.
This response has been vetted by Lolita Schmalenberg, a psychotherapist and teen and adult therapist at Lifespan Counselling.
