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Dear Friend,
I am really upset. Some of my classmates have complained to the teacher that I smell bad. I shower twice a day. I check myself carefully before and after I wash, and I honestly can’t smell anything unusual. I have even sniffed my school uniform, and it seems fine too. There could be something wrong with the school’s coats, but I’m completely confused. It’s really affecting me because I don’t know what to do. I have become really self-conscious, and I feel like I am being bullied because of this.
Signed, Can’t Smell What’s Wrong
Dear Can’t Smell,
I’m really sorry to hear what you are going through. It sounds super tough and confusing, and it is totally normal to feel upset and self-conscious. You are already doing a great job taking care of yourself by showering twice a day and checking your clothes, so give yourself credit for that.
Where is it coming from?
Maybe it’s something in the school’s air or coats, like you mentioned. It could even be that the smell is not coming from you at all and is something nearby, and people are mixing it up. Ask a grown-up you trust to help you figure out if your sense of smell is compromised and it’s you, or if it’s something else.
What if it’s me?
There is a possibility that you can’t smell yourself. A trusted adult could help suggest a product that works well. Sometimes, switching to an antibacterial soap can make a big difference. These soaps help kill the bacteria on your skin that can cause odour. You could also try a stronger deodorant or antiperspirant.
Why can’t I smell anything?
Sometimes, our bodies get used to our own scents. There could also be a medical issue that is affecting your ability to smell. It’s nothing to be scared of and is something a doctor can easily check for you.
How do I feel better?
You should also chat with your teacher privately about the complaints. They can help stop any bullying and make sure everyone is being kind. Remember, true friends and nice people won’t make you feel bad on purpose. If it feels like bullying, that’s not OK, and you deserve to feel safe and happy at school.
Try to focus on the things you like about yourself. You have been brave by reaching out. If your classmates' reactions continue to bother you a lot, talking to a counsellor can help you feel stronger and less alone.
Things will get better, Friend of a Friend
This question was answered by Ken Fung, a clinical psychologist, director of Therapy and Counselling at The Jadis Blurton Family Development Centre and founder of Your Relationship Clinic
